John S.
The jewelry stores are in high swing this February with their ads showing men running out to buy jewelry for their ladies. "He went to JARED!", "Every Gift Begins with Kay", and all the others, etc.
The Vermont Teddy Bear Company has got their annual "Love Bandit" ad in heavy rotation showing the office females cooing and fawning over the gift bear ("It's much BIGGER than I thought!" and "Where can I find a guy like that?").
The Pajama-gram folks have got their standard ad in heavy rotation, showing the slinky women in new pajamas with looks of total ecstasy on their faces and how guys will probably win some special bedroom affection if they just buy their ladies some cuddly new pajamas.
But where are the ads showing women sweating over what they are going to get for their man this Valentine's Day? Or is this a day where only men give and women receive?
Oh I forgot...all women have to do is give their AFFECTION in exchange for material gifts, right? Or at least this is the subtle message we seem to be getting from the.marketing gurus who write these commercials.
I know many women who feel equally obligated to get their man a gift on Valentine's Day...so how come the advertisers don't seem to be trying to serve this consumer need, especially since women seem to wield so much spending power?
Answer
1. Men have a harder time knowing what to buy a woman for any occasion. Marketing schemes exploit this by showing men images of women loving their products. It's likely not that men don't know what women want so much as that it's women who do the majority of the shopping. When women want or need something, they buy it on a regular shopping trip. So it is very infrequent that a woman wants or needs something practical. Jewelery is impractical and expensive, and about the only thing left to buy women for "special occasions."
2. In a capitalist society, we are eager to show how wealthy we are by practicing conspicuous consumption, and companies that market luxury items are eager to capitalize on that.
3. Men still feel the pressure to provide for women in an age where women make ALMOST as much money as men. That's an example of different areas of social interaction evolving at different rates.
4. The female double standard. Women want "equal rights" and equal treatment, as long as it works in their favor. Women demand to be treated as good as men in politics and business, but have no interest in giving up their female privilege. Women (generally) don't want to be drafted into war, so it's okay that their not treated equally in that regard. Also, women don't want to give up being pampered, showered with gifts, and treated like weaklings when it suits them. So, there's currently an expectation for men to somehow know when women want to be treated equally, and when they want to be treated like the "fairer sex."
Like it or not, this is not a perfect society. Each gender, class, and race has its "cross to bear." Unfortunately, one of yours is Valentine's Day. Everyone, do me a favor. When you think you want to buy or receive diamonds, watch "Blood Diamond" instead. Realize you are not getting a precious stone, but a readily available rock for which people are being killed so that you may wear a status symbol. Diamonds are not expensive because they are rare or precious, but because you demand them.
End of rant.
1. Men have a harder time knowing what to buy a woman for any occasion. Marketing schemes exploit this by showing men images of women loving their products. It's likely not that men don't know what women want so much as that it's women who do the majority of the shopping. When women want or need something, they buy it on a regular shopping trip. So it is very infrequent that a woman wants or needs something practical. Jewelery is impractical and expensive, and about the only thing left to buy women for "special occasions."
2. In a capitalist society, we are eager to show how wealthy we are by practicing conspicuous consumption, and companies that market luxury items are eager to capitalize on that.
3. Men still feel the pressure to provide for women in an age where women make ALMOST as much money as men. That's an example of different areas of social interaction evolving at different rates.
4. The female double standard. Women want "equal rights" and equal treatment, as long as it works in their favor. Women demand to be treated as good as men in politics and business, but have no interest in giving up their female privilege. Women (generally) don't want to be drafted into war, so it's okay that their not treated equally in that regard. Also, women don't want to give up being pampered, showered with gifts, and treated like weaklings when it suits them. So, there's currently an expectation for men to somehow know when women want to be treated equally, and when they want to be treated like the "fairer sex."
Like it or not, this is not a perfect society. Each gender, class, and race has its "cross to bear." Unfortunately, one of yours is Valentine's Day. Everyone, do me a favor. When you think you want to buy or receive diamonds, watch "Blood Diamond" instead. Realize you are not getting a precious stone, but a readily available rock for which people are being killed so that you may wear a status symbol. Diamonds are not expensive because they are rare or precious, but because you demand them.
End of rant.
i caught my fiance looking at porn, adult question?
Are you my
i dont know why but it hurts. he knows how i feel about it and its not like i never let him watch it, only sometimes, with me. we are 21 and 22 and we are getting married this month. i just dont understand why he does it.
we had sex at 4ish, drank a little in the evening, i gave him oral, and passed out. i woke up at 3 this morning to use to bathroom only to see that he left the computer on and he had been looking at 40yearold blowjobs. why does he still need to look at it after sex twice today. why do i feel so betrayed and hurt.
Answer
If you are going to marry a man, it's time you understand the physiology of the creature.
I'm a woman, 52 years old. I've been around the block a few times, and know a bit about men.
Men are visual creatures, and they are owned and operated by the hormone, testosterone. Testosterone provides a man with a very high sex drive. Men think about sex quite often. I think statistics say every twenty minutes -- again, because of testosterone.
All men look at porn. All men masturbate - married, dating, or single.
When a man looks at porn it has nothing to do with his personal life, or his wife or anything but a sexual release. It is not about another woman -- if you showed him photographs of the porn models/stars he's looked at in the past, he would never recognize their faces.
Women feel hurt and betrayed by their man when he looks at porn because they have no concept of what it feels like to have testosterone coursing through their bodies 24 hours a day, seven days a week. Men don't have the luxury of hormonal ebbs and flows like women do -- it's a constant, and they need the "release" more often.
Mother nature created men this way at the dawn of time -- so he could spread his genes as often as he could find ANY willing woman.
Women, on the other hand, are more selective -- they want to pick a man who would pass on good genes to their offspring. So most women reject having sex with almost every man they meet...... (not so true for men).
If you ever watch nature documentaries, you will notice that many animals are like this as well -- the female is particular. OR the male animals fight each other for their own harem.
While there is such a thing as porn addiction, if your man isn't looking at porn every day for hours on end, i wouldn't think it was an addiction, but a natural urge. And with the internet today, porn is more available for free (no more expensive magazines!)
I hope this helps. I'm sure you're a beautiful vital woman. Be confident in yourself.. your husband loves you.
If you are going to marry a man, it's time you understand the physiology of the creature.
I'm a woman, 52 years old. I've been around the block a few times, and know a bit about men.
Men are visual creatures, and they are owned and operated by the hormone, testosterone. Testosterone provides a man with a very high sex drive. Men think about sex quite often. I think statistics say every twenty minutes -- again, because of testosterone.
All men look at porn. All men masturbate - married, dating, or single.
When a man looks at porn it has nothing to do with his personal life, or his wife or anything but a sexual release. It is not about another woman -- if you showed him photographs of the porn models/stars he's looked at in the past, he would never recognize their faces.
Women feel hurt and betrayed by their man when he looks at porn because they have no concept of what it feels like to have testosterone coursing through their bodies 24 hours a day, seven days a week. Men don't have the luxury of hormonal ebbs and flows like women do -- it's a constant, and they need the "release" more often.
Mother nature created men this way at the dawn of time -- so he could spread his genes as often as he could find ANY willing woman.
Women, on the other hand, are more selective -- they want to pick a man who would pass on good genes to their offspring. So most women reject having sex with almost every man they meet...... (not so true for men).
If you ever watch nature documentaries, you will notice that many animals are like this as well -- the female is particular. OR the male animals fight each other for their own harem.
While there is such a thing as porn addiction, if your man isn't looking at porn every day for hours on end, i wouldn't think it was an addiction, but a natural urge. And with the internet today, porn is more available for free (no more expensive magazines!)
I hope this helps. I'm sure you're a beautiful vital woman. Be confident in yourself.. your husband loves you.
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